But You Look Good!
Wayne Connell’s wife, Sherri, has battled an illness from the age of 14 which took a turn for the worst when she was 27. Wayne and Sherri struggled with explaining her illness to friends and family, as they quickly found that others were battling the same issues. So, Wayne founded, The Invisible Disabilities Advocate as a place of compassion and understanding for those living with debilitating illness, pain and injury.

In Wayne’s presentation, his goal is to educate people about how extreme fatigue, pain, dizziness, cognitive impairments and other symptoms can be limiting, even though the person may not "look" sick or in pain. Wayne also addresses "what to say," "what not to say" and "how to help" someone living with a debilitating disorder. Wayne is passionate about this subject, yet lighthearted and enjoyable! In his presentations, he really "hits the nail on the head!"

Often the most difficult part of living with a disabling illness or injury is the lack of understanding the person encounters. Since most people living with chronic conditions do not always "look” sick, loved ones sometimes find themselves questioning if the limitations are real. Even when we tell our friend or family member we are unable work, attend a gathering, shop, cook, clean, etc., they may disregard what we are saying, because to them we "look" fine!

Let's face it, most people cannot comprehend what it is like to be sick or in pain for weeks, months or even years, because they are used to going to the doctor, taking some medication and soon feeling better. Consequently, unless people are educated about what life changes a chronic condition can bring, people may inadvertently treat others as if they just need to "snap out of it" or "stop complaining." As a result, the only way to transform a well-meaning, but hurtful view is to understand that the illness can debilitate a person's body against their will.